4 Ways to Improve Self-Care

Given the elevated conversation and heightened awareness that mental health has recently experienced, it’s no wonder that the topic of self-care has received so much mainstream attention.  But what, exactly, is self-care?  For some this conjures up images of relaxing by the pool or enjoying a massage or perhaps dozing off for a leisurely afternoon nap.  Many might even consider self-care to be a selfish, “me first” act.

And for those of us who are Christians, haven’t we been taught to trust God, that he will take care of all our needs?  

But what if one were to consider self-care as an intentional act that enables each of us to be our best not only for ourselves but for others?  I know in my family so many are running non-stop every day looking after the needs of others – young children, aging parents, spouses, and friends in need.  This is especially true of the moms (it must be in their DNA!).  How, they may ask themselves, can I be so selfish as to put myself before those who constantly need me?

In this regard, let’s define self-care as anything that is done deliberately to focus our efforts on caring for our health mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. It’s the basis for improving our mood and reducing anxiety.  If we can balance our own needs, then it stands to reason that we are much better prepared to look after the needs of others.  It’s not a selfish act, rather an act of service (to others) and stewardship (of the physical gifts given to us by God).

So, what are some simple self-care tools that can help us be better servants and better stewards?  Recently, Amanda Orshalick, fitness director for Gleneagles Country Club in Plano, Texas, joined the Beacon of Light team as a guest on the Faith In Mind podcast to discuss self-care.  She outlined several foundations of effective self-care:

EXERCISE

Exercise has so many benefits beyond basic fitness and aesthetics.  And it doesn’t have to mean hours of grueling gym sessions or seemingly endless cardio sessions.  It can be as easy as a walk.  In fact, 20 to 30 minutes of brisk walking combines the benefits of improved fitness through low-impact exercise with enhanced mental clarity.

SLEEP

Another benefit of exercise is improved sleep.  We all require adequate but different amounts of sleep.  Lack of quality sleep, once a symbol of sacrifice and achievement, is universally seen to sabotage physical and mental health.  Don’t fall asleep with your electronic devices.  Keep the temperature cool in your bedroom.  Try to finish your evening meal two to three hours before bedtime.  It all helps.

NUTRITION

Although it may seem self-evident, proper nutrition is an essential step for effective self-care.  Be thoughtful about minimizing sugar intake.  Try to limit snacks to nutrient-dense options such as nuts, fruit, or sliced vegetables rather than processed foods such as chips, cookies, or candy.  Again, start slowly.  If canned sodas are a problem, begin by substituting other calorie free carbonated beverages or mineral waters.  Split entrees with your partner.  Boredom often leads to snacking – be intentional about your down time.

MEDITATION AND PRAYER

Meditation and prayer are excellent ways to improve self-care to enable you to better serve loved ones.  Find a quiet place and a consistent time of day to center your thoughts and renew your spirit and your mind.  There are numerous scripture passages upon which to pray and meditate.  One of my favorites can be found in Paul’s letter to the Romans, Chapter 12, verse 2:  Do not confirm to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing, and perfect will.

Self-care is anything but selfish.  An intentional practice of self-care allows us to renew and strengthen ourselves so that we may be our best for those who need us the most while serving others as Christ has called us to do.